Failure(?)

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The first step to admitting our failure is to share and speak of it.
That is the only way to come to terms with our failure.

People in my circle always worried about underperforming at work, afraid of their co-workers’ criticism.

Sometimes we worry about our so-called failure because our mind is programmed to think that specific situation is the opposite of success.

We need to change our mindset.

Our paths are different, even though in some sense we do go through similar hardships.

Our journey to change our mindset is going to be different.

I have been watching a video on coursera about “Intensity and the Ordinary” as part of the “The Modern and the Postmodern (Part 2)” course.
The instructor, Mr. Michael S. Roth, referred to Freud’s concept of pursuing consolation.

Freud wanted people to understand that they won’t find consolation through ideals.

Freud doesn’t think we should have ideals that we strive to live by. What we should strive to do is understand who we are and where our desires come from, and how we might satisfy them while living together. There’s no one answer to that. There’s no one answer to that. There’s no one road for everyone.

We all have standards, and we must comply with them.
Once we sense our incompetency at establishing our standards, we feel as we’re lacking and that’s when our failure sinks in.

We accept some situations as failures, and we anguish about it relentlessly.

We must try to find a way to control our categorized thinking that puts everything we do under various titles — which is extremely hard.
Yet, we must find a way that works for us to stop stressing about an objective we had to reach and failed to.

There are going to be times in life we don’t perform well, for various kinds of reasons.
It’s ok not to reach our objective — there is going to be a new one tomorrow.

Sometimes our colleagues’ or friends’ criticize our actions, and that’s when we feel at fault. But should we?

We should write down our expectations, and keep in in mind that these expectations don’t represent us, as we always keep improving and advancing and we can’t be defined.

Our failures are our building blocks. We must collect as many of them and be proud. Those blocks helped to shape what we are — a person that keeps endlessly progressing and won’t ever remain the same.